AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
To avoid negative people and surround yourself with positive people could have easily been
When you have a grand goal or dream, you must be careful with whom you share it. Not everyone is going to be happy and supportive. Some people may be downright mean and critical. Family members and even close friends may not be as enthusiastic as you are. In fact, they may laugh or criticize you for what you are trying to do.
Don’t allow anyone to throw a wet blanket on your dreams.
Going for a goal or dream usually involves making changes. When someone decides to make a change, this may not sit well with people that are happy with the status quo. When we change, it can affect other people. Jealousy and insecurity can be a response from another person. The bottom line is that
When you operate from a place of high integrity, you must continue to move forward. Align yourself with others who will be supportive and build you up instead of tearing you down.
Goals and dreams are fragile. They are like young, innocent children. In order to thrive and grow, your dreams must be feed and nurtured.
That brings us to Step 12 – Whittling down More Distractions
1. ACTIVELY LOOK FOR THE GOOD IN LIFE
Seek out good things, and they will come to you. Sometimes, we’re so used to focusing on the negative that we don’t try to find the obvious positive things around us. As such, it’s a good idea to build a good habit of looking for good things. You can do this by:
- Appreciating the excellent taste of food or drinks you love
- Taking note of subtle things you like in textures, surfaces, and more
- Appreciating opportunities to learn, grow, or improve yourself
- Actively going out and looking for things you enjoy
2. HAVE DEDICATED TIME FOR NEGATIVITY
When you’re first starting to fight negative thoughts, you might find that you struggle to contain them. Instead, you might shove them all to one corner of your brain, where they will eventually overflow and cause problems for you later.
Instead of letting this happen, what you can do is set aside some time for yourself to experience negative thoughts. This habit should be a daily practice and should take up no more or less than 10 minutes.
During this time, feel free to think of all the negative things you want. Outside of that time, when you discover a negative thought forming, push it aside, and wait for your next 10 minutes of negative thoughts to give it attention. This exercise will slowly but surely teach you to manage and, eventually, phase out negative thinking.
3. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
It’s easy to point fingers or play the victim when life has you feeling down. You might say things like:
- It wasn’t my fault
- I had no way of knowing
- I only did that because I was stressed out
- There’s nothing I can do about this
- I have no choice
Yes, some situations are outside of your control. But at the end of the day, it’s your life. You’re responsible for the decisions you make, you’re accountable for your actions and reactions, and it’s time to take control of that.
Until time…. Stay Positive!